Peer Leader Letters #6

As we are creating our personalities, based on our Sense of Person, there are three areas of our inner lives that are particularly important and powerful because they are products of our mind-body connectedness.

These are our Self Confidence, Self Esteem, and Self Concept.

Being the result of both our reflective intellect, and our physical/feeling experiences, they are formed very early in our lives and continue to evolve to the degree we are open and self-aware in new experiences.

Each is very difficult to define for oneself because they exist simultaneously as feeling and as an unconscious determinant of our actions.

Nevertheless, they are omnipresent in our actions, behaviours, and inner narratives, and it is important that we work to understand their affects in our personalities.

Self-awareness is the primary way we can access and understand them, and a willingness to broaden and deepen our engagements with other people, and our communities.

The ongoing development of our self-awareness and engagement with others is also necessary because sometimes our self concept, self confidence, and self esteem may become stuck. For example, our self esteem may become fixated on the possession of wealth and/or status in a community. Our self confidence may become inextricably linked to success in a certain endeavour or field. And there are many who experience radical challenges to their self-concept when friendships change, or authority figures they are deeply invested in criticize or reject them.

These examples should make us aware that each self narrative needs to be part of one’s consciousness, so that we can change or revise them in the continuity of experiencing both our inner selves, and the people and events in the world around us.

Superficially the Peer to Peer program appears to be about helping our younger peers transition to high school, and have a successful as possible first year.

But in the act of engagement with them and inviting them to reflect on their experience we are also encouraging them to develop a literacy in self confidence, self concept, and self esteem.

Each in turn forms the basis of our resiliency, and contributes to our capacity for learning.

The limitations to social gathering, and the personal fears for one’s own health and that of loved ones, can put undue negative influence on our continuing development of these three ‘self’ ideas.

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